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Aella
@Aella_Girl
My guess is that some (though I doubt all) of people's issues with their porn use are actually referral pain from loneliness that would have happened anyway. Low sex drives, underconfidence, imability to get laid, are easy to blame on porn.
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Ara Hagopian
@ara_hagopian
I’m sorry for over-sharing, but I read this last night and started crying. I started watching porn at ten years old. I don’t think I’ve ever truly “enjoyed” sex the way most people seem to. I’ve been trying to quit this year, but it’s hard when the hits are always in your pocket.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Ofc to reiterate I do *not* believe all of this, in all cases, is projection, only that it seems like in a lot of cases its hard to tease this stuff apart. Porn is society's new satan; we've treated it like it's toxic, and that in itself can make you feel toxic for using it.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Like, in a world where alcohol is viewed as horrible debauchery that will sap you of motivation or skill to socialize on your own, it seems likely that even light drinkers with poor social skills might make similar reddit posts about how alcohol has destroyed their lives.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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That being said - I have some friends who belive porn addiction isn't real, and I am not sure I agree, at least in the sense that I belive people exist who feel so intensely compulsed to watch porn that it's clearly negatively impacting their lives - similarly to alcohol/gaming!
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
It's just that porn is a super hard issue to tease apart. Any time you have heavy social stigma and meaning imbued into a thing, it's tough to disentangle the concrete, direct harms from the thing, and the harms that result from *expecting* the thing to harm you.
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Tye
@yaguytye
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Gaming 100% is equally as destructive, but only if we pull social stigma out of porn usage. Comparable to amphetamine use etc as well
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