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When I was very young I had basic physical traits and cultural similarity as criteria for a mate (dark hair, christian); a little older and it became more about shared hobbies/nerd identity; after that it became more about life trajectory (thrill/boldness). lately for me tho,

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Apr 27, 2022

my criteria for hubbyhunting is somethin like: 1. very deep self acceptance 2. brave enough to hurt me 3. has one foot in the infinite pain 4. really smart 5. polyamorous 6. into the same freaky sex i'm into 7. similar social power 8. eldritch

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So despite a large list of criteria, you don't have: -Social Chemistry -Makes you laugh -Tall -Attractive -Kind / Ethical (fairly different) Maybe that stuff isn't important to you. But it is to most women.

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who cares what's important to most women? this tweet is by aella about aella

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Because most people make criteria and then don't really use it / forget about lots of other things that are very important to them.

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social chemistry can be brute forced, it's not hard to make me laugh, i don't mind dating short boys, i'm not super picky on attractive, and 'kind' feels like it sorta auto follows from some of the traits i already listed.

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How can social chemistry be brute forced?