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Aella
@Aella_Girl
When I was very young I had basic physical traits and cultural similarity as criteria for a mate (dark hair, christian); a little older and it became more about shared hobbies/nerd identity; after that it became more about life trajectory (thrill/boldness). lately for me tho,
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
my criteria for hubbyhunting is somethin like: 1. very deep self acceptance 2. brave enough to hurt me 3. has one foot in the infinite pain 4. really smart 5. polyamorous 6. into the same freaky sex i'm into 7. similar social power 8. eldritch
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
im suspicious of my current criteria because my last sets of criteria have kept changing with age, but right now every point feels important. I *don't* fully understand all of what it is I want, and there's definitely other ways incompatibilities can arise that aren't on the list
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But if i'm evaluating someone for romantic compatibility, i often feel... some boredom? I feel like i'm looking for some kernel of annihilation in them, some little voice in the background screaming in ecstasy that it's ready to die. i want a heavy metal soul.
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