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Aella
@Aella_Girl
there's so many nonobvious social norms! If someone asks u to meet for coffee, how long does coffee last? should you make 'leaving' moves after 30 minutes? four hrs? when someone asks to buy you a drink at a bar, this means they want to talk to you - nobody tells you this stuff!
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
i figured out the bar drink thing after i happily approached my friends at a bar with a drink and was like 'look what a nice stranger got for me' and they were like 'and you just left him?' and i was like '....yes? why?'
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
most of my social groups for years have been rationalists; since i've moved cities i've been branching out into new friends and it's lovely but i'm having lots of 'wtf are the norms, i cant even ask about them cause ppl dont recognize them as norms'
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@acidshill
dude i knowww being around rats is like being able to deeply relax im hoping that after i get more used to the non-rats and learn all the rules that it'll be way less conscious effort to follow them and feel more chill
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Tjdriii
I have tried to ask about them and it feels a lil like I'm in a twilight zone where people laugh and think you're talking about the weather, they just aikido right past me
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Cassandra Sky
@CassandraSky10
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@Aella_Girl
I *could* be mistaken, but you have ASD, right? I have heard that such things are harder to intuitively pick up on if so. It gets even harder to learn rule-by-rule because the norms can change by city.
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