Here's the thing: I don't want you to humor me when I say I'm a woman. I want you to _believe_ me.
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I really genuinely do not have the ability to do that for people who aren't passing. I know some people seem to be able to, but my brain isn't constructed in a way for that capacity. I can believe individual things, like 'you have a female identity' though!
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Then you should work on overcoming your transphobia rather than publishing essays on why you should humor trans people even though they're "really" something else.
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I really push back on a world where failing to believe something you want me to believe is transphobia. That's an attempt to coerce my mind, which is *mine*, not yours. You do not have a right to demand me modify my mental state.
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Here's the thing: the belief that trans people are not telling the truth about their gender is at the root of transphobia. This is the very justification behind all of these attacks on us.
Your saying "that doesn't justify the attacks" is not actually helping.
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It is no more helpful than saying "[x] people are actually inferior, but we shouldn't treat them as actually subhuman." It's merely trying to put on airs of progress, not changing the belief that is the very problem.
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I'm not a fucking man, I'm a woman who had the misfortune of putting up with a testosterone-based puberty.
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I believe you're telling the truth that you have the gender identity of a woman! But the entire point of my article is that this is *insufficient* to be viewed as a woman, as the 'woman' concept has way more things in it than just gender identity.
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Honestly, no, the entire point of your article reads as you agree with the people that want to make me go to the men's room and beat me up, but you don't agree that I should be treated quite that harshly, so you have a rationalization about it.
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Just call me a tranny whore or a sissy or a shemale or something, at least then I'd know you're gonna throw me under the bus when treating me as a woman starts making you feel uncomfortable.
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I do not think you understand how hostile your ideas actually are. "Trans women are not women but we should humor them" is intensely patronizing.
I genuinely feel more insulted by this than the people who want to force me to detransition because they think I'm a mentally ill man!
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It sucks you feel insulted by that, which I genuinely mean. I would prefer a world where you didn't suffer because of it. I'd also prefer a world where I have control over my beliefs. The combination of the two is real unfortunate.
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