By slur, do you mean the other pronouns? Cause I'm not actually thinking any slurs.
If someone prefers me to address them how I view them, that seems fine to me. Most trans ppl I know have explicitly requested otherwise tho.
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Here's the thing: I don't want you to humor me when I say I'm a woman. I want you to _believe_ me.
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I really genuinely do not have the ability to do that for people who aren't passing. I know some people seem to be able to, but my brain isn't constructed in a way for that capacity. I can believe individual things, like 'you have a female identity' though!
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Then you should work on overcoming your transphobia rather than publishing essays on why you should humor trans people even though they're "really" something else.
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I really push back on a world where failing to believe something you want me to believe is transphobia. That's an attempt to coerce my mind, which is *mine*, not yours. You do not have a right to demand me modify my mental state.
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Here's the thing: the belief that trans people are not telling the truth about their gender is at the root of transphobia. This is the very justification behind all of these attacks on us.
Your saying "that doesn't justify the attacks" is not actually helping.
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It is no more helpful than saying "[x] people are actually inferior, but we shouldn't treat them as actually subhuman." It's merely trying to put on airs of progress, not changing the belief that is the very problem.
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I'm not a fucking man, I'm a woman who had the misfortune of putting up with a testosterone-based puberty.
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I believe you're telling the truth that you have the gender identity of a woman! But the entire point of my article is that this is *insufficient* to be viewed as a woman, as the 'woman' concept has way more things in it than just gender identity.
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Honestly, no, the entire point of your article reads as you agree with the people that want to make me go to the men's room and beat me up, but you don't agree that I should be treated quite that harshly, so you have a rationalization about it.
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No, I think it's that you don't realize the ideas that you're saying here.
You are literally repeating the premise that transphobes use to justify their attacks, but then saying "but even though that's true we should not hurt them."
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In my culture we separate things out to their individual parts and examine them in isolation. Just because some people quote an argument for bad ends doesn't mean the argument itself is bad. If you'd like I can provide examples.
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