By slur, do you mean the other pronouns? Cause I'm not actually thinking any slurs.
If someone prefers me to address them how I view them, that seems fine to me. Most trans ppl I know have explicitly requested otherwise tho.
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Here's the thing: I don't want you to humor me when I say I'm a woman. I want you to _believe_ me.
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I really genuinely do not have the ability to do that for people who aren't passing. I know some people seem to be able to, but my brain isn't constructed in a way for that capacity. I can believe individual things, like 'you have a female identity' though!
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Then you should work on overcoming your transphobia rather than publishing essays on why you should humor trans people even though they're "really" something else.
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I really push back on a world where failing to believe something you want me to believe is transphobia. That's an attempt to coerce my mind, which is *mine*, not yours. You do not have a right to demand me modify my mental state.
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Here's the thing: the belief that trans people are not telling the truth about their gender is at the root of transphobia. This is the very justification behind all of these attacks on us.
Your saying "that doesn't justify the attacks" is not actually helping.
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It is no more helpful than saying "[x] people are actually inferior, but we shouldn't treat them as actually subhuman." It's merely trying to put on airs of progress, not changing the belief that is the very problem.
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I'm not a fucking man, I'm a woman who had the misfortune of putting up with a testosterone-based puberty.
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I believe you're telling the truth that you have the gender identity of a woman! But the entire point of my article is that this is *insufficient* to be viewed as a woman, as the 'woman' concept has way more things in it than just gender identity.
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As in, if I earnestly report to you that I don't in fact have arms, and ask you to believe my that I don't have arms, this feels... kind of absurd. It seems fine to believe that I experience armlessness, and to treat me as though I don't, but i have no right to demand ur belief
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Or; if I report to you that I am a very optimistic person, you might be unable to choose to view me as optimistic (if you've had evidence to the contrary), though you can believe that I believe that I'm optimistic. And it would be insulting to demand that you change your beliefs.
No one’s running around beating up optimists. Despite the victim complex that some of them seem to have.
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