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i wrote this thing about transness in which i think both sides are wrong

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The existence of trans people is a lot of things, but happens to also be a spikey thought experiment that jabs at our concepts of identity. “What is a woman?” “Someone who can get pregnant.” “So no...

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Just call me the slur you're thinking, it'd be more honest than trying to make your transphobic framing "polite."

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By slur, do you mean the other pronouns? Cause I'm not actually thinking any slurs. If someone prefers me to address them how I view them, that seems fine to me. Most trans ppl I know have explicitly requested otherwise tho.

1:37 AM · Apr 20, 2022

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Here's the thing: I don't want you to humor me when I say I'm a woman. I want you to _believe_ me.

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I really genuinely do not have the ability to do that for people who aren't passing. I know some people seem to be able to, but my brain isn't constructed in a way for that capacity. I can believe individual things, like 'you have a female identity' though!

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you’re a bad person lol