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I'm having that classic aging thing happen of not knowing how to find and make friends, really. I feel like I need to be put into the same place as someone else for it to work, but it feels weird to call someone up and be like hey let's hang out 2-3x a week till we're friends ok?

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@Aella_Girl

I've done a lot of fun experimental bonding stuff with people which has definitely resulted in friends, but the problem is my circles and I are all super mobile and all my friends are spread out across the globe now

3:22 PM · Apr 13, 2022

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fwiw local friends probably won’t be as fantastically aligned with your interests as internet friends

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I have this issue because many of my friends are all over too. It’s nice when you’re visiting x place and you have people. But it’s tough at home and you can’t just call someone for a drink or dinner. My go to is usually meetup.com or a sports league

meetup.com

Meetup - We are what we do

Find Meetup events so you can do more of what matters to you. Or create your own group and meet people near you who share your interests.

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That is indeed a problem. Guess you'll just have to austin-pill them.

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play D&D (or games like D&D) it's like 3-4 hours a session a week and you can do it online or offline around a table

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@tormeh89

Apr 13, 2022

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@Aella_Girl

Play online D&D with your remote friends. It's a great group activity. In fact it's the only one I know of that works for regular remote contact

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make a discord

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it sucks, and it's painful, but effort to deprioritize long distance relationships and funnel that time into local relationships is the only solution

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“It’s hard to find a friend…” ~ Tom Petty

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Tom Petty - To Find a Friend (Official Lyric Video)

The album, Wildflowers, released in 1994, is commonly vaunted as Tom Petty’s most personal, most heartfelt, and most revealing artistic statement of his care...

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If you have a "date me" form, maybe a "friend date me" form would be good too. Also, maybe some "crm-esque" tool to follow up with people you set an intention to follow up with... Been thinking about both, so I guess I'm doing it. Will report results 🤓

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I've heard that cohort-based courses are the 'best way to make friends in your thirties'... find like-minded people, geographically-dispersed, and have a reason to spend time with them... Not tried it yet, but I'm tempted.