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i'm starting to slightly suspect that maybe some of the hate i get is in fact due to being a woman. Most of it's probably due to being a sex worker, but the two are pretty intertwined.' This is a bit of an update for me, I haven't usually ascribed stuff to gender.

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Mar 23, 2022

This isn't a strong thing, lots of people get hate for lots of reasons regardless of their gender or race or whatever, but it *does* kinda seem like i get disproportionate targeting for not doing the traditional gender role thing ppl think I should? Open to theories here

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is there anyone similar to you that's male for a baseline comparison? seems have to find but there may still be a bit of useful data out there

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not sure if it's meaningful to find a male baseline, as it seems like male/female sex workers get treated very differently by wider society

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yea this is part of the problem, there's not an easy/direct comparison. The uncharitable view of me is "exploiting males for their money" so, probably a man who's exploiting females for sex? Probably a fuckboi who has lots of sex and doesn't commit?

11:17 PM · Mar 23, 2022

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PUA-types I guess, but there's still something about the comparison that feels not quite equivalent

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They'd react to gay male intellectuals similarly (disgust, reducing them to their sexuality, insisting they can't truly be anti-woke). Growing up on male-dominated internet corners, the only famous men who were ever ridiculed as harshly as famous women were gay or said to be so