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good question inspo - how have you fucked up previous romantic relationships?

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in my 20s I fucked up some romantic relationships and then figured out how to stop fucking them up some SF dudes in their 20s recently fucked up some relationships and are blaming it on "polyamory" swearing never to be open again and are breaking my poly female friends' hearts

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8:08 AM · Mar 14, 2022

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By not making it clear enough when I liked/appreciated having someone in my life. I'll never make that mistake again!

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I almost destroyed the best relationship I ever had because I actively pushed her away at every turn and refused to let her know the real me (to be fair, I didn’t know him either). I almost lost her and decided to open up fully, and now I’m a different man and our love is anew.

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@Gunnar_Zarncke

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We got closer, were cuddling, and she was interested. I wasn't willing to go so fast and left her later. The prototype of the German "von der Bettkante stoßen" - "rejecting right off the bed." Our relationship soured afterward. Today, I would stay and talk about it.

hunter seNFT-grupp

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1st: was awkward 2: different life stage - she wanted more I didn't have 3: didn't build emotional connection 4: eventually failed because I was terrible at sustaining connection 5: learned to sustain connection over time and space. 12 years hence, married 6 years and counting.

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Scene isn't dead

@NaughtyKatsura1

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Grew up homeschooled, first relationships were in college. fucked up 5 before I learned my mistakes, doing okay now so 🤷‍♂️

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being controlling after loss of trust

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I used to blame myself for failed relationships. I'm not especially smooth, and I'm earnest. I don't anymore, if me being earnest is an issue, that person didn't like me as I was.

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A Guy Posting His Ls

@Pyrrhic_Defeat

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By being unlikeable. Fr tho, I have no idea. Everyone seems to have these great narratives for why their relationships end, and I’ve no idea where they get them. Seems to me sometimes people just fall out of love and there may not even BE a reason or cause.

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I had a lot of trouble turning my own ego down and putting myself in other peoples' shoes. I can still think back to old arguments, and I was way more concerned with 'getting my way' than coming to a mutually agreeable solve.

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