When I have a nearby support network of friends, I ambiently feel more socially secure, braver, resilient; when I don't, I start feeling paranoid, insecure, afraid. The cause/effect doesn't feel consciously related! I'm starting to relate to it as taking vitamins or exercising.
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As in; if I am hangin out with a friend and there's a mean online comment, it rolls off me; if all my friends are a 6-hr flight away, the comment lodges in my brain. It took a while for me to notice the correlation; it doesn't *feel* like it has anything to do with my friends!
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just summed up my weekend's experience with insecurity. and i aint really got an excuse because some of my close friends and folks i knew from nyc were at camp and i didn't have the heart to ask them for support
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this feels also *especially* true for being around people who are willing to let their own energy out and lean into it
which is more difficult for me to feel safe doing
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THis is a major reason why the US is psychologically screwed up. Movement for employment is assumed and its costs are rarely if ever acknowledged.
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This is a great realization! We all need community and the support of friends / family. Well, most of us. Have you heard of Allostatic Load (as it relates to stress experienced when being alone, in particular)?
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Building deep and trusting and reliable friendships is very hard
Some ppl are natural at it - it's absolutely a skill that can be acquired - some ppl need friends more than others
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Yeah this is an interesting phenomenon
There are many habits and events which greatly improve my health (all kinds)
but I pretty much never intuit the actual correlation
Recently adjusting to this realization myself
Vitamin analogy is good
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have had similar feelings and also applies to when I exercise/strength train consistently or not