Which rules do you use to evaluate sexual consent? In my rape survey, I found four main rule spectrums people seemed to fall on when evaluating rapeyness.
(You can be high or low on all of them, or high on just a few)
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1. External motivation - How much motivation for the sex is not about the sex itself (e.g., getting paid, or making a partner happy) vs purely because of horniness? Some people view external motivation as clearly more consent-violatey than others.
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2. Mental capacity - how much are you aware of what you're doing and the implications, going to endorse your actions later on, are of sound mind, sober, etc.? Some people have a lot more leniency for varied mental states, and others only find a narrow range to be consentable.
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3. Conditional consent - how much is consent invalid given conditions are violated? If you consented to sex given that someone is wealthy, or uses condoms, or is of of your preferred gender, how much of a consent violation is it if they don't actually meet those conditions?
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4. Victim mentality - how much the emotional/mental state of the receiver matters to determining if consent was violated; e.g. if someone doesn't mind (or enjoys) if boundaries were pushed, how much does this impact how you evaluate the consentiness? For some people, it's a lot!
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I think this definitely depends on whether the conditions are pertinent to the consequences of the sex act. If the condom condition is violated you're forcing the risk of consequences, i.e. changes to their body, onto your partner, without their consent to those consequences
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So like is it raping someone to successfully pretend to be a rich man as a poor man?
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In this case the act itself was consensual, but there's a spectrum in the response. For example, a guy lying about using a condom can be an annoyance or a violation depending on chances of getting VD.