I've been full blown, no-doubt polyamorous for ten years, Ask Me Anything while I make coffee
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Where do you find the energy? Does it have to do with some innate extrovertedness? The concept is just so foreign to me. Like, I kind of get it but also not at all. Sorry if the questions are offensive, I have no idea.
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For me, the definition of 'poly' is 'not restricting your partner from intimacy with others.' That doesn't take too much more energy than if you did restrict them from energy, I think!
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I think the question was more towards the energy that it takes for you to be involved/date multiple people.
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I wonder if that leads to resentment, especially in younger couples(?)/primaries?
How robust (in terms of longevity) are poly relationships vs straight?
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Basically all imagined problems in poly boil down to "say what you need" and "listen to your partner(s)."
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That seems a bit sus, is there much empirical data on the success of these relationships vs straight couplings? I mean two possible solutions to the resentment problem after doing those things would be; breaking up or quitting the poly thing.
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I did a big survey a few years ago and found no correlation between length of primary relationship and polyness. I didn't ask about secondary relationships tho
Honestly, this definition of "poly" seems post-rationalized. Especially if you have a primary partner, isn't your behaviour more polygamous than "polyamorous" in practice? "Intimacy" in this case just means sexual activity and romance, right?
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