I've been full blown, no-doubt polyamorous for ten years, Ask Me Anything while I make coffee
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as a hot girl, how do you think your experience compares to people who aren’t hot girls
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I actually think roughly the same? I think people mostly 'normalize' based on their SMV; people usually date and attempt to date people around their own attractiveness level. I do think I get more raw interest than other people have, but my rate of successful dating is similar.
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Really? I've heard about straight couples that opened their relationships, and the pattern is that the woman has lots of success in getting dates while the man doesn't. Is that not accurate?
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Sure, but it's accurate for monogamous people dating too, and it seems like straight men and women still have, on average, exactly the same amount of sex as each other. If the woman is going on dates with a lot of men, then those men are also having success in getting dates.
To that point, what's the gender ratio among people in the straight poly dating pool? If the gender balance is even, then it has to be true that men and women will have the same mean number of partners (but possibly different Gini coefficients).
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Women are far more selective on average, and it's not at all uncommon for one man to be "dating" many unaware women simultaneously. Several studies have shown the pareto principle in full effect
