I've been full blown, no-doubt polyamorous for ten years, Ask Me Anything while I make coffee
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Do you at all feel that you sacrifice the depth of a monogamous relationship for the breadth of many relationships, and is polyamory some sort of way of spreading your emotional chips out in such a way as to avoid the rejection or self-improvement inherent with lasting monogamy?
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Not even a little bit, not at all. I think this is one of the biggest conceptions about polyamory, that it's "less deep" than monogamy. I can't begin to stress how untrue I find this to be; simply allowing your partner freedom does *not* mean your bond with them is less deep.
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Fair. But from a pragmatic “time management” aspect, I’d be surprised if having multiple partners doesn’t limit the amount of quality time you can spend with any single one partner. We only have so much time in one day, one week etc… these hours days weeks add up to our life.
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Right; I'm working on a long-form blog post about this, but for a very succinct answer; if you don't restrict your partner from having friends, you can *still* expect them to not hang out with friends if they committed to showing up with you on a date
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Intimate relationships take time and maintenance. A-lot of it is subjective so its hard to gauge from the outside looking in, but i have a very strong, deep and loving bond with my fiancé. There are many reasons for this but a-lot has to do with commitment, sacrifice and trust.
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yeah, there are decision-making challenges encountered regarding if you're trying to figure out eg where to live, which can produce more conflicts the more people are trying to coordinate, but a mono couple could happen to have more incompatible constraints than 4 poly ppl
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