I've been full blown, no-doubt polyamorous for ten years, Ask Me Anything while I make coffee
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Right now, yeah! Historically I tend to be "meet one person, date them while they date other people" style poly
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Does it affect how you think about the future? do you still make plans as a “we” when it’s more than two people?
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It doesn't affect how I think about my future a lot? It's probably harder to make big plans if there's more than 2 ppl involved, but I rarely have two partners at the same time who are serious enough I want to do Life Plans with them.
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polyamory seems like trading the annoyances of not getting to sleep with other people, for the annoyances of getting to sleep with other people
what am I missing?
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I mean you're kinda right? In my view, the annoyances of not getting to sleep with other people are sort of a deeper, more important, principled downside than the annoyances of getting to sleep with other people.
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what are the greatest benefits you’ve had for being poly and what are the biggest problems
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Benefits are, it feels healthy and loving? Like, it feels really deeply loving to me to allow my partner to do what they want. I don't have to suppress any romantic/sexual interest I naturally experience for other people when I'm im a relationship.
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More complicated! More moving parts, more long discussions about feelings, also feeling jealous isn't a fun emotion.
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