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I have noticed that my discomfort with 'being sexual around men' has decreased a bit since being publicly out as having done escorting; maybe something like, it feels less like men assume my sexuality is "about them", now, like people see me as 'whore' and don't feel special?

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@goblinodds

Feb 2, 2022

oh wait this is a whole Thing p sure the reason i dont want to be perceived as sexual (except for comedic reasons) is bc "being sexual + female-presenting" + "male friendship" feel mutually exclusive twitter.com/goblinodds/sta…

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Feb 2, 2022

This despite me having sex with ~1 new partner a year lately, and having almost entirely stopped escorting since 2020; I'm still labeled with 'sex worker' and so it seems like people aren't surprised if I do cleavage or flirting or whatev. I'm not totally sure tho, just a theory.

Aella

@Aella_Girl

uh but if this is true, I *like* it. I really like feeling sexy/sexual and i love bringing sexual energy, it's just really hard to do it and be careful not to generate the 'man's hard pee pee pointed at you' vibes that i assume

@goblinodds

is rightfully trying to avoid

5:29 AM · Feb 2, 2022

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I think if you bring sexual energy you can reasonably expect a sexual response, in the best case?

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Sure, but i think the sexual response that's ideal is like... a diffuse sexual response? Like I'd love a man who's comfortable in his sexuality, unashamed of sexual desire, and also doesn't treat me like he's starving and i'm thanksgiving

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v curious about what this is like, i dont think i have a clear idea of what "bringing sexual energy" means and what sorts of responses to expect?

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