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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I wanna get better at not just spurting out my thoughts with fun as the primary objective, and instead figure out how to tweet controversial takes *without* getting ratio'd. Any tips for methods of presenting tough ideas that don't make people mad at you?
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Sarah Constantin
@s_r_constantin
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@Aella_Girl
I expect the strategy is different between cases like "we need to work on this problem constructively and I don't want people's anger getting in the way" vs. "I like talking about controversial issues for fun but it's stressful to be insulted by angry people"
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@s_r_constantin
This seems true, I think I don't clearly want one-and-not-the-other of these. I think I naturally blurt out 'fun' phrases, and have this orientation (of 'find the fun') in everything, but also sometimes do this while wanting to talk about the problem constructively
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@s_r_constantin
my desire to 'actually talk about the problem constructively' i think persists always, like im trying to imagine a scenario where someone puts in a good faith disagreement with a tweet and i don't think i'd ever find this unwelcome. I do find some of myself is unclear to me here
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@s_r_constantin
Uh i'm afraid of people viewing me as a malicious edgelord? there's some 'slur' feeling in there i wanna avoid. i'm afraid of people i care about, or people who have impacts in my life, viewing me this way. It feels really sad to me, like i'd feel super misunderstood.
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Sarah Constantin
@s_r_constantin
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@Aella_Girl
oh. some people surely already do see you that way! and anybody who's already choosing to be part of your life knows you make edgy polls! so this mostly reduces to "I might want to connect in future with people who would disapprove of my current edginess level", right?
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Sarah Constantin
@s_r_constantin
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@s_r_constantin
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@Aella_Girl
all the ways I've heard of, to talk about "potentially upsetting" topics without giving offense, involve things like being more indirect, saying more words, or restricting your audience. that is, they require less spontaneity and/or lower mass engagement.
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