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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I wanna get better at not just spurting out my thoughts with fun as the primary objective, and instead figure out how to tweet controversial takes *without* getting ratio'd. Any tips for methods of presenting tough ideas that don't make people mad at you?
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Sarah Constantin
@s_r_constantin
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@Aella_Girl
I expect the strategy is different between cases like "we need to work on this problem constructively and I don't want people's anger getting in the way" vs. "I like talking about controversial issues for fun but it's stressful to be insulted by angry people"
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@s_r_constantin
This seems true, I think I don't clearly want one-and-not-the-other of these. I think I naturally blurt out 'fun' phrases, and have this orientation (of 'find the fun') in everything, but also sometimes do this while wanting to talk about the problem constructively
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
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@s_r_constantin
my desire to 'actually talk about the problem constructively' i think persists always, like im trying to imagine a scenario where someone puts in a good faith disagreement with a tweet and i don't think i'd ever find this unwelcome. I do find some of myself is unclear to me here
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@s_r_constantin
Uh i'm afraid of people viewing me as a malicious edgelord? there's some 'slur' feeling in there i wanna avoid. i'm afraid of people i care about, or people who have impacts in my life, viewing me this way. It feels really sad to me, like i'd feel super misunderstood.
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Sarah Constantin
@s_r_constantin
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@Aella_Girl
this has happened to me too. my attitude is "it sucks but i'm still ok despite that" and to some extent "i accept that from now on i just shouldn't talk about some of the stuff that has turned out to upset people a lot"
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