I've recently realized that I've been processing 'confidence' as 'arrogance'; when I feel confident in a belief, some part of me goes "oh you're arrogant, you should stop that" and then I flinch back and reduce my confidence, and this all happens quite subconsciously.
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Is this overcorrection for the fact that you grew up in a religious fundamentalist community, which is by definition guilty of overconfidence?
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I think of it like this:
arrogance = confidence * entitlement
Confidence turns into arrogance when you feel entitled to being right or good. Like a lack of willingness to learn or be corrected.
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IMO you should always do a double-check and if ask yourself if some opinion is actually just self-serving
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This is why I separate audacity from arrogance.
There's some awareness and intent encoded into these words.
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Just gotta hope you land in a good spot on the 'confident'/'arrogant'/'cocky'/Dunning Kruger spectrum
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Nothing wrong with confidently staking out a position. Humility is recognising that the position can be improved (sometimes by abandoning it) by seeking out criticism.
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These days I feel less like I have opinions and more like I'm emulating opinions—and I can emulate alternative opinions, as well. I tend to only feel confidence in things that elicit an emotional response, which are the very things I am most wary of expressing.
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Confidence is like ...how well you feel your knowledge survives criticism
Arrogance is when you resist error correction because you are holding onto that feeling
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I'd be interested in how much your belief in subconscious is essentially a Freudian belief