Whenever someone asks my pronouns, I say "whatever you feel describes me best." For me, my gender belongs to the perception of those around me. So far they mostly seem to be calling me a woman so I'm going with that.
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How annoyed would you be if they started calling you by male pronounce in an attempt to antagonize or demonstrate contempt?
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would be annoyed at the contempt, but I don't mind when people call me he/him in situations like online where it's clearly not from contempt
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I relate to this. I don’t understand what people are referring to when they ask what my gender identity is. I respecting others’ gender identity though. But I can’t even fathom what they are referring to if it’s not my phenotype. Maybe I don’t have one?
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I've considered doing that as I feel like it does come down to a description of perception and demanding something of someone else feels like forcing them to lie.
But I worry about someone outright calling me something outlandish.
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the simple act of comminicating between two people is a challenge enough already. why muddy up the works?
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Makes sense. I think it's healthy not to care about how you're being referred to in the 3rd person. The fact that ppl are obsessed with this is a function of the sense of always being seen, leading to an obsession with trying to dictate social perceptions.
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