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I originally approached the internet with a 'be vulnerable' philosophy - to share as much about hopes and fears and things I'm struggling with as I can. I somehow didn't anticipate that people would make a bunch of assumptions without checking with me?? 1/

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I know this is pretty obvious now, but there's something in my model of the world that made this not-obvious, and it's *still* not obvious! Every time I see someone confidently making statements (usually blatantly incorrect) about my emotions or internal life I'm like... how????

2:31 AM · Dec 15, 2021

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This is probably a lesson other people have internalized and is why more of them aren't also as publicly vulnerable as they can possibly manage. I *figured* there was a reason why I just didn't know what it was!

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This assumption of internal life behavior/language is modeled everywhere. You see it on the "news," where political commentators confidently claim to know the real motives of their rivals, for example, or in reviews where claims are made about what a filmmaker is doing.

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It's funny how much thought can go into modeling a "reality" about you that isn't based on anything true. Who cares I say, I appreciate getting little notifications of what you do here on the internets. Always appreciate it.

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Ask not the sparrow how the eagle soars.

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I think nowadays people got used to the anonymity of social networks to spill some of their hatred. And if you, by some kind of luck, are similar to what they hate, they will use you as a target, even if they know nothing about you. That’s sad but also good to realise🤔