I originally approached the internet with a 'be vulnerable' philosophy - to share as much about hopes and fears and things I'm struggling with as I can.
I somehow didn't anticipate that people would make a bunch of assumptions without checking with me?? 1/
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I know this is pretty obvious now, but there's something in my model of the world that made this not-obvious, and it's *still* not obvious! Every time I see someone confidently making statements (usually blatantly incorrect) about my emotions or internal life I'm like... how????
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This is probably a lesson other people have internalized and is why more of them aren't also as publicly vulnerable as they can possibly manage. I *figured* there was a reason why I just didn't know what it was!
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people project their own experiences, insecurities, neurosis, etc. onto others. social media makes this even easier/more common. there are one or two "triggers" in a post that activate their memories/feelings and then they "fill in the gaps" with their own experience -
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I’ve actually reached the same eureka lately. Not just internetly but also IRL. People seem to think that my open sharing is contrastable with their refined veneers of pseudo-character. And they judge me for not faking better, ironically. Once again: Frankfurt bullshit.
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Projection and transference are rampant. Often, the same qualities that help a person stand out also make them targets of hallucinated qualities.
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(Ironically this could be an assumption about you), but it looks like you have a warming(?) faith in others to be as accepting as you are.
Please stay you.
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