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My date-me experiment round has drawn to a bittersweet close. I feel pretty pessimistic about the idea of finding someone to date who I'm excited about. Any suggestions on how to increase the chances of meeting people I'd romantically like?

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What didn't work about it? (I assume you've posted about this somewhere. Links appreciated.)

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knowingless.com/2021/11/15/wha We were very compatible in most ways and then extremely incompatible in the communication modes we resorted to when having a disagreement

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What I Learned From My Date-Me Experiment

Last year, I published a “date me” survey with ~60 questions in an attempt to find a serious long-term partner. I designed it with a few categories – lifestyle choice compatibilit…

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I put a ton of thought into this exact point; I think even incorporating this, the incompatibility there was too great. This is not for lack of intense effort or consideration.

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Any way you could elaborate about the communication difficulties you had? (If not too personal.)

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oh no he was great, I don't think it was anybody's fault. The 'this isn't working out' was mutual (we both estimated our % of working out along the way without telling each other, before revealing it to each other). He also put in a lot of effort.

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Not sure if you tried couples therapy but it works if you aren't already checked out, which is when most people try therapy. If its literally about handling a disagreement and you guys are still friendly then its worth a shot. No one is perfect. That's a poisonous thought.