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Aella
@Aella_Girl
When you hurt someone you don't like, you lean away from the pain - distance yourself, say they deserve it, you don't feel a bit of what you've caused. But when you hurt someone you like, you also lean away from the pain - you try to fix it, reassure, apologize, make it stop. 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
What happens if we don't lean away from the pain? What if we lean *in*? What if it's okay to hurt someone? Of course this does *not* mean distance. To accidentally hurt someone and not lean away is the hardest of all; it means staying with their pain, and yours for causing it 2/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
It means you're not trying to fix or brush away. You're here saying "I accept that I hurt you, it's okay that I hurt you", as the pain you caused them shoots back through your bond with them to burn you as well; and you hold that bond, don't flinch, don't let go. 3/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Ofc this doesn't mean you shouldn't fix! But there's a difference between fixing and fixing *as a flinch*; like moving towards a thing you want vs running away form a thing you're afraid of. In leaning away from pain you caused, you also lean away from *them.*
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There is what happens and there is what you make it mean. It is rare anyone is actually responding to each other. Most often is a past based response. Upset if often only a thwarted intention. Not a reaction to reality