Do you consider poly people (who allow their partner to have multiple consensual romantic relationships at the same time) to count as queer?
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I mean, no? I think the lgbtq+ identity should come along the idea of gender identity and sexual orientation.
Meanwhile poly or mono fall more in line in the relationship romantic or sexual structure, rather than the orientation
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idk how to make sense of it and I don't super care, but I find myself generally unattracted to monogamous people; my relationship style doesn't feel like a choice, it feels like a fundamental part of me. I know not all poly people feel this way though!
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As a queer poly person, I don't think of poly as queerness (while I *might* consider Relationship Anarchy as such). But it is logistically marginalised, so it's often worth mobilising *alongside* LGBTQIA issues
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Basically queer just means all the stuff outside the "normal/traditional", so in this context - definitely. Same reason ace are on the queer list too, even as they still can be het/gay/bi... :)
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I don’t think poky is in and of itself but it would surprise me if those two crowds overlapped
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No, but as I do not consider myself poly or queer, you should not put much weight on my opinion.
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Overall I don't really care, but I do see the arguments for yes - "queering" is in a fundamental way about questioning and changing the standard social order, and polyamory feels like it makes sense as part of that project.
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semi-seriously: yes for poly heterosexual women, no for poly heterosexual men
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