What are some of the ‘best’ criticisms against sex work, re: how it affects bonding, making sex not-sacred, damaging the psyche, etc.? If any of you have been lurking with critical comments lemme have em
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to be specific, I'm not interested in criticisms of sex work in general (like how it's a short career), I want specifically criticisms around damaging relationship to sex or bonding
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When friends are interested, I ask them if they're ok being raped. The answer is "JFC no."
Me: "OK then prostitution isn't for you."
I suspect I have a similar detachment to my body as you (don't get me wrong I love it) but sexual assault is just part of the work. It's rare.
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Yeah there's ways to reduce risk but you're generally correct. In my survey 41% reported sexual assault.
TBF I suspect sexual assault in a sex work context (where you expect risk) might process as less traumatizing than assault in your personal life where you expect safety.
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some people clearly make it work while others don't. that's the name of the game. literally, fuck around and find out.
I'd bet one could copy-paste criticisms against polyamory and it would stack up to about the same.
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Ah, in that respect, that it's a special job like soldier or firefighter where 'civilian' rules of work-life separation do not apply. As such not for everyone.
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From the perspective of an idealized altruism, everyone deserves to feel deep love. Sex work, while net-positive in many society, transactionalises coitus, and with repetition, cements coitus as transactional, making it harder for the participants to achieve deep love thereafter.
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In so many cases, people want to argue FROM an ideal of sex work rather than dealing with what sex work currently IS and how or if the ideal is feasible given human nature. Also, people suck at understanding human nature.
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"best" criticisms revolve around normie couples, which stands glued together because among other things the woman is safe resources will be spent on her and the couple kids, which is good sex workers are available, would quickly break as the man gets better sex for less money
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It could be a shortcut to sex that prevents people from learning how to relate and bond with people of the opposite gender, or how to be comfortable being alone.
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It is very hard to find a relationship and not have a lot of conflict over your past or current work. Less so with online work but personally as a retired escort it’s something I struggle with. It can make men very insecure. You also can’t be honest with their friends and family
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