Ppl be like "your poly relationship exploded because of the polyamory" but be like "my monog relationship exploded because we couldn't fully meet each others needs and one of us cheated but its definitely not the monogamy"
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I've had poly relationships end for reasons that would have ended a monogamous relationship (diff life paths, incompatibility), and some poly relationships that ended for poly-specific reasons (he met another girl he liked more who was monog)
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I've been cheated on, definitely wasn't a problem with the monogamy. Well, not *my* monogamy, anyway. I have 0 problems being faithful. But yeah, I wish people who can't stay faithful wouldn't get into monogamous relationships. But that's more a maturity thing - if your needs
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IMO, very strictly monogamous relationships often become socially closed off- you never see anyone else admiring or being attracted to you or your partner. This can make each person value their partner less and less over time, or make each person hungry for validation.
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How often do people cheat because their sexual needs aren't being met? Usually, the needs not being met are emotional. Obviously the number is >0, but are we talking like 2% or 25%?
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I would think poly relationships can explode in all the same ways as monog, no? Cheating could still be a problem since at its core its about seeking something outside of the relationship, that should be sought through your partner(s), without consulting your partner(s).(I think)
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Relationships are really hard, and nobody should have to justify to anybody why a relationship failed.
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All failures are multi-causal, and people tend to focus on the "weirdest" causal factor, even when it's not the most important. But like I think being poly definitely makes managing people's needs more difficult and complicated, and the relationship overall more flammable.
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