i suspect my (and mebbe others?) sense of "romantic butterflies" comes from capturing the attention of a really high SMV mate compared to the previous range of your mate options, even if it doesn't 'feel' like this from the inside.
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It’s an interesting idea though I think for myself, I’d disagree. The reason being, I’ve had encounters where I did not hold someone in very high ‘SMV’ esteem when we first met, and was then later surprised when some action on their part put me into that ‘butterfly’ headspace.
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ive had a similar experience that in hindsight i think was a SMV thing! its possible our details were in fact meaningfully different but also possibly not
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Constantly astonishing to me how everyone is so totes chill with the revelation that love doesn’t exist and everything is status transaction.
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Hey, it was cool to see you on hacker news. You brought some cool energy there.
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I tend to agree, albeit I think it's not only about "sexual market value",
but sexual market value+cool(whatever one considers as cool) character
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