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taught myself to stop checking if other ppl think I’m socially acceptable a long time ago. Worrying about being cringe is the enemy of art, failure tolerance is essential for creativity. Deciding not to be mad at ppl enjoying life is ok 🤍

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This is a decision I feel like I have to keep making; the caring keeps creeping up on me. How do you make this more permanent?

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For me, it's a process of continually giving myself the love and affirmation I seek, rather than seeking it from others.

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how do i do this

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Positive self-talk. Constantly complimenting and affirming yourself, your thoughts, your feelings, your preferences, your choices. Even and especially when others don't. Your opinion of yourself is what matters most. Be your own biggest hype squad.

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This feels a bit like wishful thinking or pretending to me; I typically have negative self-talk for what feel like 'reasons', and hyping myself, on some level, feels like I'm deciding to ignore those reasons because I desperately want to believe something that feels nicer.

9:12 PM · Oct 3, 2021

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fake it till you make it!

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It can be a conversation. Inquire into those "reasons" and figure out for yourself whether their foundational assumptions/conclusions align with who you are or want to be. I also like to ask myself, "Is this how I would speak to a beloved friend?"