I dislike "everyone is beautiful" or "you're beautiful just the way you are" - this pressure that if you're unattractive, you should 'pretend' that you're beautiful. This privileges attractive people and expects the unattractive to pretend that they don't have any disadvantage.
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Can you imagine if we did this for other areas? "Don't worry, you're white just the way you are", "omg you said you're poor? don't say that about yourself, someone gave you an extra $20 last week!", "He just said you're autistic cause he's an asshole, you're def neurotypical!"
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You are discounting the degree to which most people are wired from birth to perceive whatever is most adaptive under the circumstances, e.g. their own relative attractiveness or that of their partners. Bootstrapped confidence can then be perceived as attractive, a virtuous cycle.
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"you're beautiful just the way you are" has always been a pity compliment to me and is more degrading than positive. Screw all that fake positivity, maybe if we didn't force everything to be "perfect in my eyes" people wouldn't be so miserable when they don't feel perfect
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Only rich people say money isn't important, only attractive people say looks are not important
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I definitely understand what you’re saying. The difference between attractiveness & the examples you cited is that who & what is attractive is up for debate, changes over time, and is shaped by culture & systems of power.
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i mean beauty has a certain subjectiveness
u can be an ugly ass white dude but if you go to asia you may not be considered ugly, like, the "ugly scale for white men" may be different in other places (still exists , but it's different so some1 ugly in 1 place isn't ugly in other)
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I do not ever think that's the idea, intent or reasoning behind that. It's more of a appreciation of who you are/what/may become. There is more of pressure to compare ourselves to others, but if you do, you'll never happy with anything. Just got to "work with what you got."
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It's more like beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone finds different things beautiful and also someone's personality can make them look more beautiful. If someone is very stereotypically attractive but has a terrible personality they lose their beauty (at least to me)
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I agree with the body positivity movement on this one: Rather than pretend everyone is beautiful, we should get to a place where a person’s looks are the least important thing about them.
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