it's weird for so many people who don't know you, to have such strong opinions about you, which they voice not to you but to each other, and are opinions you know would probably be different if they hung out with you IRL. It's just a straight-up bizarre sensation.
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if it's any consolation it's not an opinion on you so much as their idea of you based on the filter of your personality you put up through social media generalized
but this is the same as what's done irl, just do a different extent, which is why those opinions differ
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It feels like a lot of projection, though? Like, I can only offer a narrow slice of who I am online. I try to offer as wide a slice as I can (tons of vulnerable stuff on my blog). And people take the little they see and run really, really far with it.
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Isn’t this the same as gossip in school/community from people who know of you/know you in passing but don’t “know” you.
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I've never experienced this outside the online world! I was homeschooled tho.
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i've dealt with this before, it's spooky
i've also had people who project about me, and then I meet and talk with them and it feels human and normal, and then they go right back to projecting about me when I'm not around
my current model is, these people are prob "unintegrated"
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I feel like that whenever I engage with your tweets. I was told I look like a child predator because I disagreed with someone equating a teenager having sex with crucifixion.
I don't wanna even see your DMs.
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Knowledge, even false one, give trust to people to act a ceetain way. The only problem is leaving that "knowledge" as absolute and not something to update.
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We all have opinions… pretty much 100% or certainly approaching 100% are false… so it is best never to listen to opinions about yourself… the odds are pretty low they are of any value.
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Everyone is fighting their hypothetical monster online as long as it confirms their priors
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My only strong feeling about you is high dugeon you haven’t come on my podcast. If I knew you irl this would be the same. Probably worse as then I’d take it personally.