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Ok y’all wanna hear my “Fields is canceled because of this” theory? Being exposed to terrifying experiences widens your understanding of what is possible to experience, which makes it possible to desire other extreme experiences.

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Sep 13, 2021

I did *not* expect an effect this large, I'm really surprised. 40% of ppl with abusive childhoods are into bdsm, whereas 25% without abusive childhoods are into bdsm. !!!!!!!

Mirror Fields

@MirrorFieldsJ

Sep 13, 2021

So the theory is: the link between abuse and bdsm isn’t as straightforward as it may seem. It’s not a priming effect, it’s not a projection of any kind; it’s a rearrangement of your metaphysics that comes from extreme experiences.

Aella

@Aella_Girl

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@MirrorFieldsJ

I suspect this is the case for me; I'm into BDSM and had an abusive upbringing. It's hard to know ofc cause sex stuff is a weird mysterious black box, but something in this framing really resonates.

5:59 PM · Sep 13, 2021

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Yeah, I have a thing for extreme mental states (non-sexual) and I’m almost certain it’s because of how I grew up. But I’ve realized just recently that I’m also way more open to kinky stuff than most people, even though that’s not my *thing*.