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are you more anxious (clingy) or avoidant (cold) in relationships? || if you could have one but not the other, would you rather love someone or be loved by someone?

anxious || love someone
12.1%
anxious || be loved
33.7%
avoidant || love someone
18.5%
avoidant || be loved
35.7%

2,037 votesFinal results

9:53 PM · Aug 7, 2021

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"Loved" as in what I think or what THEY think is love/affection? Just because someone loves me doesn't mean they're doing it in a way I appreciate. If I love someone, it's because something they do is very enjoyable to me. So I'll take the necessarily enjoyable experience.

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Either / or depending on the hour of the day ?

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Looks like people just wanna feel loved.

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Being loved is one of the worst burdens you can have in your life.

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actually this is a really interesting question 🤔 but I'm guessing most people will go for "to be loved" option since loving someone who does not love you back is way more frustrating

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As someone who was/is avoidant and was/can be cold, after being loved long enough by someone, and developing more gratitude, I think I’ve grown to be able to love them back in a way that meets their needs.

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This might be your toughest one yet to answer. Really had to dig deep on both questions.

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As an avoidant person generally, the thing I'm looking for is more someone to love, than for someone to love me. All my relationships have been with girls who are very into me, who I'm in the position of liking, but not feeling deep with myself. I'm definitely chasing that feel.

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yah im kina avoidant even if I love someone if they show love and effort towards me I will show it back. but im not about no games so the more games I see/think are being played the more avoidant I become... computer/console games excluded