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Aella
@Aella_Girl
ppl be like "this is not how u do love aella" but I'd met this guy a few times before and we had 0 chemistry, no interest. it took till the end of our 3-day 1st date before finally I felt excited. the data worked first, then my heart followed. I'm so glad I listened to the data!
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I've been really distracted over the past few months due to attempting to date a new person. It's the #2 top scorer from my date-me survey, and we're intentionally and rapidly escalating the relationship to figure out as hard and fast as possible if we could be life partners. 1/
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@Aella_Girl
my survey was really good and actually selected for things I valued, and pointed me in the direction of people in my community who I'd previously overlooked due to not having any of those "heart feelings" right away or whatever
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@Aella_Girl
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people are really really different, and it's possible for something to horrify you but be perfect for someone else. the possibility space here is massive. there's many ways to find love and many ways people orient towards feeling and wanting it. grow a lil imagination!
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Don't poke the (mama) bear
@dontcallcps
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My husband and I met on eHarmony 16 years ago. We wouldn't have ever met or considered one another otherwise. Long distance deep dived into our core beliefs and values before ever even meeting. Then immediate attraction in person... Been married for nearly 14 years.
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I'm so Dane
@Nikolaj777
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I don't know if I'm good at modelling other minds, but it is also possible to think to yourself: "different strokes for different folks" and leave it at that. That I certainly CAN do. Empathy is great and all, but sometimes acceptance comes before understanding.
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