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ppl be like "this is not how u do love aella" but I'd met this guy a few times before and we had 0 chemistry, no interest. it took till the end of our 3-day 1st date before finally I felt excited. the data worked first, then my heart followed. I'm so glad I listened to the data!

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Jul 29, 2021

I've been really distracted over the past few months due to attempting to date a new person. It's the #2 top scorer from my date-me survey, and we're intentionally and rapidly escalating the relationship to figure out as hard and fast as possible if we could be life partners. 1/

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8:15 AM · Jul 30, 2021

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my survey was really good and actually selected for things I valued, and pointed me in the direction of people in my community who I'd previously overlooked due to not having any of those "heart feelings" right away or whatever

Aella

@Aella_Girl

Jul 30, 2021

ALSO, some of yall are real bad at modeling minds different from yours. Pursuing a mate this way has been real fun and fulfulling for me, and if you can believe it the dude in question is even more data-oriented than me about this (and everything).

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Jul 30, 2021

people are really really different, and it's possible for something to horrify you but be perfect for someone else. the possibility space here is massive. there's many ways to find love and many ways people orient towards feeling and wanting it. grow a lil imagination!