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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I've been really distracted over the past few months due to attempting to date a new person. It's the #2 top scorer from my date-me survey, and we're intentionally and rapidly escalating the relationship to figure out as hard and fast as possible if we could be life partners. 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
So far the answer looks like "probably not", our predictions of success are 15-20% right now - low enough to be pessimistic but high enough to still be worth trying. It's been a hard, emotional roller coaster eating up most of my spare attention. 2/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
It's had me thinking a lot about life-partner selection; at what point do you accept the tradeoffs and commit? How workable are incompatibilities? How valuable are the rare ways in which you connect? At what point do you switch from explore to exploit? 3/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I made a list of what I want in a partner, weighted them (how valuable to me), rated my past partners according to what I wanted and multiplied their ratings by the weights. Here's chronological order scores of my past partners (including current dude). Max possible score=1560
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Justin Murphy
@jmrphy
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if a ~1250/1550 has about ~17% chance of succeeding then your chances for finding anyone would appear quite small, given the number of people who could score significantly higher than that is quite small
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@Dimi2X
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have you ever considered that maybe "compatibility" is not actually what makes a long term relationship work? you will never succeed at this unless you ditch your current way of thinking, even if you find a really "compatible" person, this mindset will destroy the relationship.
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