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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I've been really distracted over the past few months due to attempting to date a new person. It's the #2 top scorer from my date-me survey, and we're intentionally and rapidly escalating the relationship to figure out as hard and fast as possible if we could be life partners. 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
So far the answer looks like "probably not", our predictions of success are 15-20% right now - low enough to be pessimistic but high enough to still be worth trying. It's been a hard, emotional roller coaster eating up most of my spare attention. 2/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
It's had me thinking a lot about life-partner selection; at what point do you accept the tradeoffs and commit? How workable are incompatibilities? How valuable are the rare ways in which you connect? At what point do you switch from explore to exploit? 3/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
(also to be clear the things i want isn't the only factor; there's things he wants that i don't quite hit, which is another whole other fun stone to throw in that already muddied pond)
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
anyway yeah thats my life and what's been going on sorry if i have been slow to respond to your dms. i mean i'm normally slow to respond to dms but lately it's been especially bad.
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Justin Murphy
@jmrphy
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@Aella_Girl
if a ~1250/1550 has about ~17% chance of succeeding then your chances for finding anyone would appear quite small, given the number of people who could score significantly higher than that is quite small
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Anatoli
@AnatoliDR
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Isn't there the problem of doing a static analysis of a dynamic process? Feels like an unfair comparison to put different partners in the same scale, as most surely your preferences and weights were different by the earliest partner.
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FullMetalJesus2.0
@FullMetalJesus2
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Wait until you get to that point in life where things you like change & you don't even realize it. Now consider that also happening to your partner. That's the incoming "double whammy." Life partnerships are hard and require a lot of work and compromise -all the time by both ppl.
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