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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I've been really distracted over the past few months due to attempting to date a new person. It's the #2 top scorer from my date-me survey, and we're intentionally and rapidly escalating the relationship to figure out as hard and fast as possible if we could be life partners. 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
It's had me thinking a lot about life-partner selection; at what point do you accept the tradeoffs and commit? How workable are incompatibilities? How valuable are the rare ways in which you connect? At what point do you switch from explore to exploit? 3/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I made a list of what I want in a partner, weighted them (how valuable to me), rated my past partners according to what I wanted and multiplied their ratings by the weights. Here's chronological order scores of my past partners (including current dude). Max possible score=1560
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
(also to be clear the things i want isn't the only factor; there's things he wants that i don't quite hit, which is another whole other fun stone to throw in that already muddied pond)
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
anyway yeah thats my life and what's been going on sorry if i have been slow to respond to your dms. i mean i'm normally slow to respond to dms but lately it's been especially bad.
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Candice Taylor Green
@candice
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@Aella_Girl
Someone who turns your life into a "hard, emotional roller coaster eating up most of my spare attention" doesn't sound like a great match. I look for someone who makes my life seem easier and more fun. This does not mean devoid of challenges, but they should help, not hurt.
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