IMO trad isn’t losing, it’s emerging, and I think you can draw a pretty clean line there from a culture that increasingly uses “vanilla” as a put-down for girls that don’t want the crap beaten out of them during sex & “ghosting” as a euphemism for using & discarding sex partnershttps://twitter.com/Aella_Girl/status/1417312778310746113 …
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I am similarly against progressive sex culture where they shame trad sexuality; if you're putting down girls who don't like rough sex then that's bad (tho to be clear, celebrating girls who do like it is fine, much as celebrating women who want to be wives is fine)
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Replying to @Aella_Girl @webdevMason
also to be even more clear, I think you were extrapolating some things that I didn't mean and representing a more extreme version of the argument, which I don't support.
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to be even even more clear, if you push trad sexuality culture spectrum slider all the way far, you start getting some fucky stuff where people's natural impulses are shamed and suppressed (e.g., the gays). if you push liberal sex slider all the way, you also get fucky stuff
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my discomfort with trad sex discourse is that I'm not always fully convinced that ppl in it are aware of the variety of fucky stuff that can happen at the edges, that they take seriously the ways far-slider versions have hurt people in the past
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I feel like I'm uncomfortably running behind like "are u sure you're aware of that failure mode cause you don't seem to be looking at it yourself". I think if I saw independent discussions among those ppl like "how do we make sure we don't push slider too far" I'd feel better
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Maybe those are convos that get prioritized in situation where they plausibly could happen. Also I assume they did, when trad was norm, but to worry about them now seems like worrying out what to do when we have TOO MANY nuclear power plants... it’s fan fiction, not priority
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It doesn’t feel like that to me? Like pretty regularly in The Discourse I am reading along like ‘that seems reasonable’ and then I get a whiff of something and I’m like wait a second that is a worrying thing to say and seems like it isn’t sufficiently far from the threat
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