i grew up in an actually-really-trad culture; I thought women shouldn’t be allowed to vote, the expectation for my future was to definitely become a housewife, women weren’t allowed to hold religious authority over men, wives were explicitly expected to submit to husbands 1/
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And I’m not claiming that progressive sexuality doesn’t hurt anyone. It’s new and clumsy and I absolutely agree and sympathize with trying to point out and mitigate it and fight to protect those who would be much better suited for a trad life. I am claiming, however, 12/
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That the worst version of progressive sexuality pales in comparison to the worst version of trad sexuality. History has had a lot of time to efficiently slam down human life and expression in traditional ways; the “but sexual freedom man” is a mild blip by comparison. 13/
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I also think that trad sex/gender norms were probably there for a reason in older times; it’s not like everybody got together and was like “yeah, lets oppress everyone for fun”. Old brutal culture existed in a more brutal world, and trad stuff makes more sense w/ babies thrown in
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But also extreme-trad stuff just... it really hurts to be in. It’s really bad. It hurt people I loved, it hurt me, and it’s a deep scar I’ll carry till I die. And I’m scared to see people roleplaying at some light version of what I went through without understanding this. 15/
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I am absolutely down for discussions about the downsides of progressive sex culture. I’d love to figure out how to mitigate it, to make people not feel pressured, to support and protect the role of wives and mothers. I think this is important and good. 16
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But as soon as it carries a hint of that old oppression, I’m out. I know exactly how they used to justify the bad, that sense of moral superiority. Your ability to enjoy finger-shaking from this trad shit is born out of privilege of never having to go through what I did. 17/
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So let’s explore the downsides of freedom while still valuing the freedom itself; let’s compassionately try to solve the mental issues people are developing from progressive sex culture with solutions that aren’t worse than the problem we’re trying to solve. I think we can do it!
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