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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Some deep part of me believes that people are only confident when they're very likely to be right, and I defer to confidence because *my own* bar for speaking confidently is pretty *damn* high. but no, turns out, ppl say confident things with a low accuracy bar *all the time*!
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I'm slow on the uptake; so many times I've been pulled in by a very confident speaker confidently saying things I don't really understand - then when I check, turns out he's actually wrong about quite a lot. This is super disorienting and I don't understand that at all.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
But for ppl who are very confident, particularly about very difficult subjects, what is going on in their heads? It seems like they're doing a separate thing from truth-finding, which is something like... deliberately making particular maneuvers in social reality space.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Which like, might also be valid and in some instances leads to good things, I don't know cause I don't understand it - but whatever it is, it's not the default way I assume ppl operate, which is "have a really damn high bar for expressing confidence"
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keshavatearth.eth
@Keshavatearth
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@Aella_Girl
A conundrum I face daily. Most of what I say is what I suspect to be true. Communication gurus tell you use confident wording and fake it to you make it. Whereas my mind tell me to be honest and state the humble and probabilistic point of view.
Atilius
@_Atilius_
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@Aella_Girl
When ppl are learning about a complex system, they'll grab onto any bit of certainty they can find, as if it's a religion. And shout it at ppl. The realisation the system can't be understood in absolutes comes much later – and turns them from salesman to Zen monk.