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Aella
@Aella_Girl
OK after reflecting on this, I think there's categories of details I've been treating differently without fully realizing it. It's easy to share fun/unusual details, or very painful ones I've come to terms with, but much harder to share active, salient, close-to-home things.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I think I'd normally overshare lots of details about my life but the eerie lack of other ppl doing so in my follower count range makes me think there's some good reason not to
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
if you can put it in a stand up comedy routine, I'm down to share, even if it's real shocking or intimate. if you wanna hear about my journey healing from the trauma of childhood abuse, let's do it. but if I have sick family? relationship status changes? that feels weird.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
maybe because the first two have concrete, somewhat impersonal ways they could be interesting to others? like sheer entertainment or a useful case study. Active personal life stuff feels more like... why am I telling you? do I care what you think? very vulnerable.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
like, the first two, if you dislike it you're disliking my performance of a typically successful skill, and that doesn't feel threatening. but personal stuff isn't a skill, it's me. I am confused about why I feel so resistant to being vulnerable in that way.
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Louise
@LeRoyDesCimes
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@Aella_Girl
Is it possible that sharing personal, non-entertaining stuff (entertaining as in "would put in a dark comedy skit") is what being vulnerable actually is? If you're able to share everything else but reluctant to share that, maybe you've never actually been vulnerable?
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J. Daniel Sawyer
@dsawyer
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@Aella_Girl
Worth considering, a lesson learned from my own experience (both direct and indirect): Every public figure requires a bubble that does not belong to the audience in order to stay sane.
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Pirkka-Joose Sempé 28 5'3''
@pjsempe
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@Aella_Girl
It seems normal that one don't want to be vulnerable. I know there's some discourse about it being good but why would it? Being vulnerable means you allow yourself to be more easily destroyed. There's a reason why we usually allow ourselves to be vulnerable only to selected ppl
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@delporteart
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@Aella_Girl
protection can be a smart play. There are enough people who mean you harm that having certain information can be ammunition for their devices. Look up the trust equation..., some people fall outside of the parameters so it makes sense your caution