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I get ppl laughing "what did you expect?" when I ask why is casual sex bad so often? but also now I have an actual appreciation for good sex, which I learned *through having bad casual sex*. I know how to get what sexually satisfies me likely better than most trad wives.

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and it's not just "I had bad sexual experiences so I like the good ones by contrast", it's that lots of casual sex was an active learning experience for me as I learned to navigate my desires with a partner who might not have matched up; what differences could I tolerate, or not?

5:05 PM · Jun 14, 2021

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if I erased all the casual sex from my past, I feel pretty sure I would be worse at sex, worse at enjoying sex, and worse at knowing my own needs in the presence of someone I want to please. imo, my past casual sexcapades vastly increased the quality of my recent sex life.

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I really struggle to understand my own experiences of "It was not really what I wanted, but I gained enough skill to make it work" vs "Followed what I wanted, and I'm in love irrespective of skill" Maybe I just found what I was looking for by typing it out to a real human...