If you could press a button and magically stop your friend from getting into an intensive financial dom relationship (as the sub), would you do it?
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Why...
...would you...
....not?
Am I missing something here?
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This happened to a friend, it was a bad situation for him, and extracting himself was traumatic
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Tricky, I would say "no, not my call", but if I foresaw it being particularly harmful or deleterious to the friends' well-being I would seriously think about it. Tricky conditional.
Not my cup of tea, but my friends have agency, they can do what they want.
I'm surprised at the skew of these results.
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It's going to depend on the specifics, but a hard bias towards No because overriding another's autonomy like that I think should require a seriously high bar for harm etc
(Friend's preference in friendship style re: that sort of thing is one of the specifics I'd like to know)
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Saying yes, but I think it really depends on the degree. If they're damaging themselves, I'm certainly pushing that button.
For some people this is called marriage. Free will above making snap judgments about other people’s lives. You can give advice first or maybe they need to learn for themselves whether this is the life for them or not.