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I stand by this! But I also think 'deciding that the pain was worth it' is a pretty hard and long journey, and it's maybe phrased better as a 'integrating the pain to the point where it becomes a dearly loved experience' rather than 'deciding it was worth it.'

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Apr 6, 2021

“The trick to healing from suffering is deciding that the pain was worth it.” ~ @Aella_Girl

7:39 PM · Apr 6, 2021

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I don't believe the pain of an abusive relationship is "worth it" but it is past now and I think I've learned from it. Pain in pursuit of a worthy struggle is a different story.

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I see how this can work but what if the pain wasn’t it?

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This is one of your ideas that resonated truth for me- esp how you framed it in your blog

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Wait. Is this still about hairbrushes?

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Thats one way of dealing pain. I find counting my blessings works to could be worse im alive now and can still find happiness again in the future one day.

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And if it isnt

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Healing is a myth... acceptance of who is, is love!

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Was kinda entirely opposite for me

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For me the key to making this work, especially if I only see "senselessness" (unfairness) in pain, is understanding the perspective it gives me. Which is a way of further knowing myself. The exp itself is, usually, shit; most people won't arrive to "dearly loving" shit, I feel.