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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Women are way more into sexual submission than anything else, and men are sorta vaguely 'into everything.' This is one of the most fascinating things to me. So far I've heard some casual theories about why this is, but not the level of discourse I'd expect from something so wild
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
like waht the HELL. why the FUCK are women in a very feminist world that distrusts men, so into sexual submission? why do so many women have rape fantsies when society classes rape as one of the worst things that could happen? how common throughout history are rape fantasies?
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
why the HECK are men not as aroused by rape fantasies if women are, given theres a big incentive for men to be as sexually attractive as possible to women? we see this in terms of "having money" but *not* in terms of sexual fantasies. wtf? This is all confusing but-
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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imo vaguely points to sexual fantasies not being as pliable/culturally informed to the same degree as other mating behaviors. but if its more "inherent" or whatever, WHYYY is it mismatched between men and women? thats a weird thing for evolution to do
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
unless evolution drummed its fingers together, cackled evilly, and said "fewer men reproduce than women, and we need to make only a few men chads and the rest can just go be turned off by rape fantasies and help around the house" IN WHICH CASE THIS IS FRIGGIN WILD
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
but even if that's not the answer - why is this not one of the most common points of research and discussion i do not understand. this feels like a giant gurgling pit of juicy findings to pull out and write articles about and then get into wars on twitter over.
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Alexander the Okay
@madjarov42
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@Aella_Girl
Perhaps men can't be "into rape fantasies" because rape is defined by the woman; not the man. The primitive man lacks the capacity to see himself through the female eye. Or perhaps he is just outsmarted by natural selection, which helps the woman weed out Pickup Artists.
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Minarchist, Esquire~Attorney-at-Law~
@minarchist9
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@Aella_Girl
women are not aroused by "rape" fantasies, they are aroused by ravishment fantasies involving a highly desirable but somehow inappropriate man overcoming their feeble anti-slut-defense protestations and taking them. dont muddy the waters with the modern concept of rape
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Blaise Chicane aka “Woody”
@BlaiseChicane
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@Aella_Girl
I’ve been extremely aroused fulfilling a former lover’s rape fantasy! But it wasn’t until we negotiated parameters and consent was given that I was able to get into that frame of mind. It was so erotic for me that now I actively seek out partners for that scene.
Bella Rudd
@BellaRudd1
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@Aella_Girl
took a partner 2 years to admit that they were into rape fantasies. lots of associated shame & conditioning to overcome. i imagine more men would admit to being into 'consensual non-consent' or 'forced play' tho these more sanitized terms lack the same inherent transgressiveness
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