Once I gave advice to someone to just fully go into their pain. Later they told me this had gone horribly, and it took me a while to figure out when I said "go into the pain" they'd interpreted it as "go into the resistance to the pain"
It can often be hard to tell the two apart!
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I actually did end up tying up and (consensually) nonsexually torturing this person later actually! But no the original thing was about them working through emotional trauma originating in childhood
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Y'know how when you focus on a thing hard enough so that it grows to be your whole reality, like you "go look at it" and no part of you tries to distract or pull away from it?
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How did you figure it out? Also were you thinking along the lines of “when you go into the pain, you see that pain don’t hurt?”
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Ah, yeah, I've had multiple people look at me funny when I told them about the efficacy of recognizing pain as a biological signal and not something real
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All I could think of is:
"Hi, I'm your dentist, Aella...
::drill whirrs::
I'm going to recommend that you go fully into your pain..."
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If there’s no lived experience of a distinction between the two, it’s very difficult to teach. The resistance needs to be revealed first. And that often requires real abiding, empathetic presence from another. (Or psychedelics).
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“Whenever you meet a ghost, don’t run away. Because the ghost will capture the substance of your fear and materialise itself out of your own substance...
So, then, whenever confronted with a ghost walk straight into it. And it will disappear.”
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