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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I'm not arguing that everybody should go poly, or that it's best for everybody. I'm arguing: 1-Monog ppl have lots of severe misconceptions about polyamory 2-Monogamy is in the water supply; a lot of people don't 'actually' have a poly option or know they'd be happier poly
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Monogamous people *constantly* misunderstand and judge polyamory and repeat this stuff loudly - one of the most egregious offenders being a confusion between exclusivity and commitment. Poly people "aren't serious" or "can't raise healthy kids."
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
And because polyamory is so heavily shamed, misunderstood, and derided in culture, it's also not *ever* reflected in media. There's almost zero poly representation anywhere. Monogamous thought is EVERYWHERE. It is so cloyingly obvious once you're looking for it. -
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
And so a lot of people who might have really thrived in polyamorous relationships, ever actually get the chance. They've only ever gotten heavy cultural messaging that monogamy is the *only way to be*, and they go get into monog relationships and feel shitty when it doesn't work.
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Cody Moser
@LTF_01
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@Aella_Girl
This is a very difficult problem to get by, with the balance being: promote monogamy to the detriment of those who are naturally polyamorous OR promote polyamory to the detriment to those who might naturally be monogamous.
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Cody Moser
@LTF_01
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@Aella_Girl
Neither should be shamed ever, yes, I agree. I am libertarian. But let's also have an objective discussion about who adopts these different mating strategies, how and why they spread through a population, and the stability of these things in the past.
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